The Hardness of Heart in Marriage by Apostle Ivory L. Hopkins

I dedicate this to my wife Evelyn Hopkins who has been faithfully by my side for 33 years this December 3 2012. Who helped me build a marriage a family, and a ministry. Truly a Proverb 31 Woman.
PRO 6:2  Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of the mouth. (KJV Bible)
PRO 6:2  You are snared by the words of your own mouth; you are taken by the words of your mouth.  (NKJ Bible)
PRO 6:2  If you are snared in the utterance of your lips, caught in the words of your mouth; (RSV Bible)
Snared defined:  To put at a disadvantage or bring under control by entangling something like a net.  To bring a person into a circumstance or situation from which escape is difficult.
            Once, while counseling a couple who were in a violent argument, the words they said to each other were losing demons in the atmosphere and filling the house with Marriage Breaking Spirits.
After getting them to realize that demons in them were causing those bad, cold feelings and words, they submitted to deliverance.  We had a mass deliverance with both of them and cast out a host of marriage breaking spirits.  The couple had been snared and trapped by hard, cold words from each other.
1.         Demons will cause you to say cold hearted things to each other so that they can curse your marriage.
2.         There are spirits that can get on anyone’s nerves.  They are called Fussing, Arguing, and Contention Spirits.
PRO 26:21  As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a contentious man to kindle strife.
PRO 26:21  As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.  (NIV Bible)
PRO 21:19  It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
PRO 21:19  Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.  (NIV Bible)
            The Spirit of Contention in a male or female makes the person have an aggressive attitude.  They seem to be ready to fuss over the least of matters.
PRO 15:1  A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
PRO 15:1  A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (NIV Bible)
Spirits Destroy Marriages by Harsh Words and Fussing.
            Some people say nothing when their partner offends them or hurts their feelings until they are angry.  Then, they explode and bring it all out at once. Things that have happened years ago.  They use this opportunity to say how they felt.  Because they have never let it out, those hurt feelings have been suppressed on the inside.
Marriage breaking spirits will bring hurts and pains to the mind so they can keep the couple at each other’s throat (Spirits of Instant recall).
I CO 13:5  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  (NIV Bible)
A.        One tactic of Marriage Breaking Spirits is the Control and Driving Spirits, ordering, directing and demanding your mate as if they are a child.
Reaction:  Makes the other partner feel belittled as if they are a child, they will become bitter and angry if this continues.
            Some mates come under Control Spirits and loose their own identity and individuality.  Becoming one flesh does not mean that you become a non-person.
B.        Spirits in some of us are controlling, possessive, and jealous because of our own insecurity.
            Please don’t destroy your mate because of the strongholds in your life.
SON 8:6  Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave.  It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.
SON 8:7  Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away.  If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.
SON 8:6  Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm:  for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.
SON 8:7  Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it:  if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned. 
C.        Marriage Breaking Spirits will use Spirits of Fear and Threatening to torment a spouse if you don’t do what they say.
1.         Warnings as if you will hurt them or run out.  Sometimes going as far as using someone else to make them jealous.
Reaction:  Fear, not love, from your mate. They will take it for awhile and possibly leave you if it continues.  Your home life is on pins and needles, you walk around your home like you’re walking on eggs.
D.        Another marriage breaking spirit is the Spirit of Judging, Blaming and Criticizing.
Reaction:  Your mate will become resentful, angry at the fact you do not trust them. After awhile, although they do not have anyone else, they will feel like what’s the use in trying anyway.
            What must be understood in order for Satan to destroy your marriage, he has to get you to the point where everything you receive from each other is negative.
Negative feelings and words coming seemingly for no reason.
2 CO 2:11  Lest Satan should get an advantage of us:  for we are not ignorant of his devices.  (KJV)
2 CO 2:11  In order that Satan might not outwit us.  For we are not unaware of his schemes. 
1.         Beware of moods of anger for no apparent reason.  You come home and find yourself snapping at your mate for no real reason.
2.         Demons are at work when you find yourself away from your spouse and you’re getting angry about something that they might not have done, not what they didn’t do, just the thought of what they might not have done makes you angry.
3.         Whenever you are talking about your mate, is it always negative?  If it’s hard for you to think up a number of good things about your spouse, your relationship is in danger.
E.        Name calling is another open door to marriage breaking spirits.
Reaction:  Your spouse will become defensive, ready to counter-attack and argue.  Also, this type of treatment destroys self esteem.  Who wants to be treated like this?
I CO 13:4  Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
I CO 13:4  Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  (NIV Bible)
F.         Praising and buttering-up until they get what they want, then the anger or harsh treatment resumes again.
            This is a manifestation of selfishness, self-centeredness and manipulation.  These spirits are very hurtful to a spouse when they figure out what you are doing.
Reaction:  Your spouse will become defensive, resenting you for treating them like a harlot.
            In a man’s case, it makes him angry and after awhile he will loose interest in this type of control and manipulation coming from you.
G.        Marriage Breaking Spirits will cause its victim to withdraw, divert, and not listen to their mate.
Reaction:  The spouse will feel that they are unimportant to their mate, problems do not get addressed, you become frustrated at not being heard.
            Couples must listen to what the other person is saying or the marriage will be destroyed.  Demons bank on our lack of communication to do their work.
            In the name of Jesus Christ, I command spirits that are:
1.         Making them stop talking.
2.         Making them defensive against each           other.
3.         Making them feel inadequate and   inferior, not loved.
4.         Making them argue and counter-attack.
5.         Making them feel resentful and angry.
6.         Making them feel guilty or unworthy.
7.         Making them feel unaccepted as they are.
8.         Making them feel not trusted.
9.         Making them feel they are not understood.
10.       Making them feel cut off and isolated         from their mate
11.       Making them feel cross-examined.

By; Apostle Ivory Hopkins
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