Pain Traffickers

There are people whom I call ‘pain traffickers’ who thrive upon the business of being there when someone is going through a tragedy in their life. They are not consolers with a pure heart, though. Instead, like a leech feeding off of blood, pain traffickers feed off the pain of others. They get a ‘high’ from being needed. This mostly stems from being rejected in their own life and they are seeking a place of prominence in the lives of others. Now, pain traffickers aren’t usually accepted by the average person because they are relatively ordinary people, but to those who are in pain, they become a ‘savior’ of sort, guiding the afflicted person through their pain under the guise of being sincere when in all truth, they want to be involved in your life during your most weakest and vulnerable moments. They pretend to care but are gathering intel about you to use at some later point. When you emerge from your pain and walk away from them in the strength of your healing, they cling on to the person they found you to be. They won’t accept the rehabilitated you and will constantly remind you of how broken you were, how you need time to heal, and that they are still there for you.

A person with the gift of healing functions completely opposite of a pain trafficker. First, we must assume that the gift of healing is not limited to the physical realm, but to the mind and spirit as well. A person gifted with healing will indeed provide stability when you are in your place of pain but they won’t use it to enslave you. They will pray with you, counsel with you, encourage you, and provide resources for you to become whole again. Once you are healed, they realize that their season in your life is over. Just as a doctor releases you from their care when your condition has improved, so does the person with the gift of healing. When you are able to stand on your own, handle your own stuff, and move past your pain, the healer moves on to make themselves available to others. They may check in on you from time to time, but for the most part, they have moved on. A pain trafficker, on the other hand, is not so. Once they become a part of your life, they are there to stay unless you insist otherwise. There is a counterfeit for everything holy. A pain trafficker is a counterfeit of a person with the gift of healing. Equip yourself on this wise and watch accordingly.

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Heated Fellowship in a Christian Marriage



As much as I love my husband, there are times when we do not see eye to eye. Yes, even with our ‘anointed selves’, there are times when we disagree and that, strongly. Because we are mature in the Lord, we know that saying certain things, even while angry, can not only drive a further wedge between us, but can also provoke the wrath of God upon us. Therefore, even when we disagree, we must still use great caution and wisdom to not verbally abuse one another and to not curse the mantle on another’s life. (That has not always worked and in those cases, repentance was the order of the day.)

As a preschooler, when one child would act out, the teacher would place the student in a ‘time out’. This would allow time for the child to reflect on his actions and give them space alone to think about their behavior. In our marriage, we have a sort of time out. My husband usually retreats to his ‘man cave’ which is in our den, rides his motorcycle, or goes for a ride in the car with his music really loud. During my time outs, I will retreat to our bedroom for a time of peace and quiet, go for a drive in the truck with my music really loud, or take a walk on the Boardwalk. It is essential in those times of heated fellowship to find your own space to think and rethink the matter with a cleared head before something is either said or done to further wedge the marriage or worse, bring cause for permanent separation. We take the time to pray, hear what the Lord has to say, and reckon the matter within ourselves before coming together again.

When we return home or to one another, it is usually awkward at first, but one of us, usually the offending party, will confess our sin (pride, disobedience, disrespect, stubbornness, rebellion, etc.) and the other one will accept and then discuss what happened. Making up is fun but the experience we learned about that particular matter grows us into making better personal decisions in the future when conflicts arise.

It may take a few days to arrive to that point of self – awareness but we have learned to take whatever time we need, within reason of course, to work out our own ‘salvation’. We do this before we approach one another a separate issue ensues off the back of the first one and the matter worsens.

There is no perfect marriage. Everybody is flawed so to expect your marriage to run smoothly ALL THE TIME is a fantasy that only happens on television. There will be times when you want to sacrifice one another on the altar of your anger but you cannot. You have to learn to grow up in your feelings and ask the Lord for wisdom in those difficult situations that just don’t seem to go away. Keep prayer in your marriage and never make your spouse feel as if they are dumb or stupid if they don’t see your view. Maybe you don’t know how to explain your view. And if you are constantly critical of your mate, can never find any good in what you do, your perception of them is off and needs to be adjusted through the eyes of love and not hatred. Marriage is the result of two people joining together as one from two totally different backgrounds, cultures, and family dynamics. It’s a beast trying to morph the two into one but it can happen when both spouses die to their flesh that their marriage can live as one unit and not two.

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Nehemiah – The Apostle Before His Time



Nehemiah represented the building anointing of the apostle in his time. Tobias and Sanballat are still at work today trying with everything they can to distract and destroy the work of the Lord with foolishness and nonsense. Every apostle who is unsure of their call needs to study that book. Nehemiah built as Ezra the prophet prophesied. Even in the OT, you see the apostle/prophet foundation for building. He did the work and those WHOSE HEARTS THE LORD TOUCHED worked alongside him. He didn’t manipulate them, he didn’t prophesy to them, and he didn’t control them. God gave his building partners the heart and mind to work and to give to his work because He was reBUILDING THE TEMPLE. Not his, but the Lord’s. It was all to God’s glory.

When we learn to chase the word instead of chasing the glory, the glory cloud will actually surround us because there is enough water in our river bellies to attract God’s presence. Nowadays, folk are hung on up on an experience and left off from studying the Holy scriptures and the rivers …run…..dry…..

King, Where is Your Prophet?


Every God ordained king in the scriptures was assigned a prophet. They had a specific prophetic voice that they were required to submit, adhere, and hearken to. The ungodly kings also received visitation from God’s holy prophets when the season called for it but the prophets were not required to stay in their company. They would deliver the word and leave for they were not required to remain housed with heathen kings. Holy prophets of God understand atmospheres and environments. They have a sense of knowing when they are welcomed, when they are received, when they are taken advantage of, and when they were rejected.

As God assigns prophets, He also releases them. When the persons they are called to mentor show continual signs of dishonor and disrespect, the Lord releases the prophet from their obligation to minister to the king and reassigns them to another more grateful and appreciative king. Bottom line, every king needs genuine and God sent prophetic ministry. 
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Govern Your Responses

When we hear disheartening news of our neighbor, do we respond with love or with judgment? Many times it is hard for even the unsaved to approach the saved because they fear being judged. Yes, he that is spiritual judges all things but that word judge means to examine, discern, and comprehend through the eyes of God. If people are afraid to come to you for counsel, advice, or wisdom in an area of their life, it may be because they need someone to listen to their soul cry and offer them counsel that is Godly, loving, wholesome, and life giving without shredding them to pieces in the process. They are not looking to be slaughtered. Show others the same mercy you would want someone to show to you. Being strong in the Word does not mean you have to become a drill sergeant. Remember this, with lovingkindness has He drawn us. May we learn to reciprocate the same.

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Apologize For Those Who Won’t

Photo: There are some of you right now who are rightly owed an apology. You have been abused, deceived, betrayed, taken advantage of, and played like a fiddle. We live in a time now where many are cruel and cold hearted and if you are standing still in life waiting on someone to tell you they are sorry, you will never progress, but the Lord is saying to you today, Child, Move Forward.  Sometimes you have to apologize for the one who owes you the apology. Jesus said whose sins you forgive are forgiven and whose sins you don't forgive are not forgiven (John 20:23). Do THEM a favor and apologize for them.   Father, today I apologize for the one who has hurt me. I am sorry for the that fact that they don't have the mind to make things right and that they don't understand the joy of reconciliation. Today, I release them from offending me so that I can be free. I will no longer sit and wait for them to apologize for that day may never come. Therefore I take the initiative as Your Child to release them from this emotional debt because Jesus paid for all of our sins, past, present, and future. Thank you Father, that I can move on with my life and do greater works that You may be glorified in me, in Jesus name. Amen.

There are some of you right now who are rightly owed an apology. You have been abused, deceived, betrayed, taken advantage of, and played like a fiddle. We live in a time now where many are cruel and cold hearted and if you are standing still in life waiting on someone to tell you they are sorry, you will never progress, but the Lord is saying to you today, Child, Move Forward.

Sometimes you have to apologize for the one who owes you the apology. Jesus said whose sins you forgive are forgiven and whose sins you don’t forgive are not forgiven (John 20:23). Do THEM a favor and apologize for them.

Father, today I apologize for the one who has hurt me. I am sorry for the that fact that they don’t have the mind to make things right and that they don’t understand the joy of reconciliation. Today, I release them from offending me so that I can be free. I will no longer sit and wait for them to apologize for that day may never come. Therefore I take the initiative as Your Child to release them from this emotional debt because Jesus paid for all of our sins, past, present, and future. Thank you Father, that I can move on with my life and do greater works that You may be glorified in me, in Jesus name. Amen.

Deliverance Prayer for Marriages by Apostle Ivory L. Hopkins

This is a marriage prayer for deliverance. It is very powerful and should be shared with anyone and everyone whom you feel would be blessed by it.

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Though We Suffer, Christ is our Hope of Glory

No one may want to hear this, but there are difficult times ahead of us, all of us. Those of us in Christ will experience more challenges of our faith such as we never had before. We are going to have to demonstrate who we are in beyond who we say we are. Much of what we see happening in religious circles will fade away, especially that which is not founded on the Rock. People are going to get tired, fed up, and many will walk away because they will become weary of the religious games that many are playing with their souls. They are going to seek out the ones who will deal with them truthfully, such as the woman of Samaria. They won’t care about getting feelings hurt, they will be tired of lies and hypocrisy and will want the truth.

The games and ‘new inventions’ of Christianity we see today will prove to be false. And the get rich quick schemes at the expense of the Church will fade as well. Only what you do for Christ will remain. We are believers of the Lord, our God, but that does not exempt us from pain and suffering. The Godly WILL suffer but we are not a people without hope. Christ is our Hope of Glory and if we are building and advancing through any other means or if our hearts are not purified before the Father, it will show.

King Asa fortified the city in time of peace. We do well to do that as well. When things are going well, fortify. Don’t wait until the trial hits your house to run to the prayer closet. Pray now. Purge yourself from all that separates you from your God because if you don’t, your way will become very hard. Train your children; the enemy has plans to destroy them since he can’t get to you. Take what God shows you at face value and stop procrastinating. Focus your eyes and fine tune your vision. Work while it is day and learn to budget.

Listen to Holy Spirit and when He opens doors, walk through them without delay. Stop pouting when things don’t go your way rather ask the Lord why it is so. Discern your environment and use great wisdom in all you do. Build your relationships on truth and nothing false. Live honest and be pure in heart so God can hear you speedily when you pray. You are favored, blessed, anointed, and called but there will still come a time of testing. We are no more special to God than David, Job, or Paul. If they went through intense times of testing and challenges, so must you and I.

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Know When Silence is the Order of the Day


You don’t always have to respond. Okay!!! Sometimes it pays you best to just sit quietly. I read a quote that says, Keep your mouth shut and people think you wise, open your mouth and people think you a fool. Some people talk just to hear themselves talk. Don’t you know that no one knows what’s really on your heart until you start speaking?

I was sharing with one of my spiritual daughters that one wrong word can kill someone’s vision. One wrong word can cause hatred and strife. One wrong word can destroy a family. One wrong word can kill a marriage or ministry. Just one wrong word can set a world on fire. Isn’t that what the Bible says?

James 3:6, “And the tongue is a fire and a world of sin; it is like a jungle. And that tongue by itself, while it is among our members, defiles our whole body and sets on fire the successions of generations, which roll on like wheels; it also burns with fire.”

There was a rap song back in the day with lyrics that said, “You talk too much. You never shut up. You talk too much. Home boy, you never shut up!” That was humorous but you know it’s the truth. Somebody is always running that tongue motor and most times it’s something that should have been left alone.

I could go on with this because writing is my craft, but learn when you need to speak and when silence is the order of the day. You don’t always have to say something. Wise people are often quiet because they are always learning. A fool runs off and talks about everything and nothing at the same time. Study to be wise and tame the fire between our teeth.

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Choose Your Battles Carefully

Holy Spirit took me to in the Holy Scriptures this morning in 1 Samuel 29-30. At first, I didn’t catch what He was saying so I re-read it. My Father began to speak saying, “Some of my people have teamed up to do battle with others when they have a battle brewing on the home-front that is going to catch them unawares. Choose your wars. Know which wars you were assigned to and don’t just sign up because your best friend is in trouble. Each person has their own battle to fight and while there will be times when you should combine forces, that is not always the case. There are many who have jumped themselves into someone else’s war and have not considered what is happening in their own home.

Consider this. If David had gone to battle with the Philistines and not been turned back by Achish, he might not have ever seen his family again. Those around him would have discredited him sorely and even his ascending to the Throne would have been stained with scandal. Sometimes the Lord will turn you around, if you are willing to discern what He is trying to show you,to save your own house. David was turned around from fighting someone else’s battle and while he was still ‘turning in his mind’ the enemy had already hit his house.

Be careful saints. You had better know when to jump on someone’s side to help them and when you need to reserve your strength for your own fight THAT YOUR FRIEND CAN NOT HELP YOU WIN.

With some people, you have to pray for them and let them go through. Don’t be so quick to ‘lay your hand’ to anything. Sweep around your own front door. I submit to Holy Spirit and when He tells me something, I listen. Hands off in Jesus name, sometimes you have keep them in your pocket.

1 Samuel 29:7, “So turn and leave in peace.” NET Bible

1 Samuel 29:8, “1 Samuel 29:8 “But what have I done?” asked David. “What have you found against your servant from the day I came to you until now? Why can’t I go and fight against the enemies of my lord the king?” NIV

1 Samuel 30:3, “When David and his men arrived at the town, they found it burned down. Their wives, sons, and daughters had been kidnapped.” HCSB

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